Happy New Year! In this season of resolutions, many of us are looking for ways to live a happier life. As a mother, I believe increasing one’s happiness is a wonderful thing to do for oneself and for one’s family–an angry, bitter and unhappy woman can never make her family happy. But how do we find our way to a happier life?
Happiness is all about us, about our mindset, what we believe and how we feel. Our circumstances, our possessions, our job and our bank account are just temporary sources of happiness. Real happiness shines from the inside out, reflecting how we feel about ourselves and how satisfied we are with who we are and how we live. As a life coach, here are 10 practices I’ve found that enhance my daily happiness.
1- Improve your self image: For me, the first and most important source of happiness is how I feel about the image I see in the mirror. How proud do I feel about myself? What kind of relationship do I have with myself? Do I offer myself love, respect, acceptance and appreciation? Or is it guilt, shame, anger, and low self esteem? Being happy with who I am is my main source of happiness.
2- Don’t seek approval of others: Many women live in a way they don’t want just to please their partner, their family, or their friends. Though this may result in short-term approval and acceptance, living according to others’ expectations will not create lasting happiness.
3- Keep your word to yourself: Learn to say NO to what is not a priority in your life. If you set a ME time for yourself ,do not give it up easily. Keeping your word to yourself will greatly enhance your feeling of self worth and self respect.
4- Eat healthy food and exercise: Healthy food will positively impact your mood and give you more energy. Working out regularly has a great effect on physical and mental health. According to a psychiatrist friend of mine, walking one hour in open air equates the effect of an antidepressant pill. So when you feel down, try going for a walk outside.
5- Let go: Let’s face it. There are some aspects of our lives we cannot control. We certainly can’t control, or change, the past. Accepting the reality that we can do nothing brings a great relief and freedom.
6- Find your passion: Working on something you love brings real satisfaction. If you haven’t yet found your passion, play around with different hobbies like making or listening to music, drawing, or writing. Expressing your thoughts and feelings in any way will help you get clear about what your passion is.
7- Keep only fulfilling relationships: Continuing with unhealthy and non-fulfilling relationships is an energy drain. See no. 3.
8- Keep a gratitude journal: Make it a habit to jot down 5 things in your life for which you are grateful. If have something you complain about all the time, follow your complaint with any positive you can find in it. Eventually, you may find a blessing in what you were complaining about.
9- LOL: Find a reason every day to laugh, and spend time with your beloved ones having fun and laughing out loud.
10- Spend some time away from media and technology: Take a brief holiday from the TV, radio, internet, even your iPhone. Spend the time working out, meeting friends, reading books, playing with your kids and pets, or taking a walk. Observe how you feel. Just few days (or even an afternoon) without media and technology will make great difference in your life and your satisfaction.
These are my tips on how to live a happier life. What are some things you do to add happiness to your life? What is your definition of happiness and do you find it easy to live according to this definition? What challenges do you face to live a happier life?
This is an original post for World Moms Blog by Nihad from Alexandria, Egypt. Nihad blogs at Aurora Beams Life Coaching.
Image courtesy of “Pretty Girl In A Hat At Sunset” by Stuart Miles, FreeDigitalPhotos.net
I just started a Happiness Book. Every day, at the end of the day, I write there one thing that made me happy that day. I am already loving it. It’s like a persona journal but with only happy things in it. 🙂
Great idea, when we write about our experience or journal daily about our thoughts and feelings; how we dealt in different situations and what is our learning it becomes a reference for the future. I wish you good luck with your book and like to read it one day. 😀
Love the idea of the Happiness Book! I ‘m going to try it this year.
Negative aspects of life tend to “bully” the positive ones and it’s empowering to have a written reminder to look back on to give us a nudge in the right direction!
Thanks for such a positive post to encourage us in the new year Nihad!!!
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I agree, Ann. I often focus on the bad and negative things that happens around me, and they tend to be the highlights of the day. The book helps me to sit at the end of the day and turn my focus on the positive things and think about them more. How surprise I am when every day so far, it was actually hard to pick only one happy thing to write down. Every time I start to think about it there are many activities and many things that my kids did or said that made me happy, but I didn’t notice them before. Only when I sit and thing back they pop into my head. It’s a great exercise for staying more positive in life and seeing more positive things around us. Even the small things, that normally would go unnoticed.
Nihad, I so needed this. I love the Happiness journal idea, too!!
Jen 🙂
Great list. I realised quite late about not caring about the opinions of others and am still learning to apply that filter 🙂
Ah-mazingly timed read! Thank you, Nihad! As Susan said, I too am working on not caring what certain people think. I don’t have an overall care, but some people besides my husband and children, I shouldn’t be concerned with. All in all I really like your tips & maybe implementing them with what Ewa is doing would be a good thing to do. That way I could take time out to do some introspection. That would probably make me a better writer. Which reminds me: I need to go write a post. 🙂 Thank you!
Thanks for all of you for taking the time to read my post, sharing it on Facebook, twitter, … and for commenting and sorry for my late reply.
I am glad you find it interesting, I am still working on many of them in my own life. Being happy with who I am and not seeking approval of others were the two most important lessons I have ever learned it brings me a lot of relief and peace.
I wish you all a very happy and healthy life 😀