Truth is, if you had told me a few months ago that I would be writing a health and wellness story right now, I would have answered you with a great big “Srsly? Well, here I am, seriously writing that health and wellness story.
I spent most of 2020 quarantined at home with my family in the Philippines, working from home while trying to keep up with all the cooking, dishwashing and laundry that needed to be done. Everyone at home helped out, sure, but we all know that doesn’t make any of this any less tiring, right? But a mom’s gotta do what a mom’s gotta do, and so I did.
It was only towards the end of the year that I began to realize just how stressed out I had become. I was constantly hyper-acidic, my hair was falling out like crazy, and my eczema decided to join in the fun, too. I was also starting to become cranky, short-tempered, and really unpleasant at times. And it dawned on me – I was trying so hard to take care of everything else, that I had failed to take care of myself. Don’t get me wrong, I was (and still am) getting a lot of love and care from the people at home, but it’s different when you actually take the time to take care of yourself, too. Self-care is something that only you can give yourself, and it really does matter. I understand this now.
Enter 2021. I started the year determined to make some sort of change, though back then I had no idea what it would be. I started by upgrading my fitness tracker so I could start logging my steps, and monitoring my heart rate and stress levels. I began taking walks, too. Every once in a while I would go online to try and find some form of exercise routine that I could do (and not hate) at home.
Now, you need to know that I do not have the greatest relationship with exercise. I’ve never found it to be fun, and it’s one of those things that I have always tried to avoid. So of course I was rejecting every potential home workout I saw online. Until one day, I chanced upon the post of a friend on Instagram, and she was doing this poi-like, dance-y flow routine with a rope. It actually looked like fun. So I did some research, checked out our local rope flow community online, went ahead and got myself the cheapest flow rope I could find, and set out to learn the basics.
At first, I thought it wouldn’t be too hard to learn. I have some dance background, so my coordination is not that bad. And I played a lot of jumprope as a kid. Well, I was wrong. Rope flow challenged everything from my concentration to my coordination to the flexibility of my entire body. My non-existent stamina was put to the test, and I literally felt muscles in my back and shoulders that I never knew were there.
After weeks of huffing and puffing, and buckets of sweat, I could finally pull off three basic moves, not at all gracefully. There’s video proof on my Instagram in case you’re interested! I put in so much work, and progress was slow. But surprisingly, I was having fun.
Rope flow hour became my me-time. It was a chance for me to step away from the computer, get some fresh air and sunshine, and just de-stress, while spending time with myself. I got to dance along to music that I loved, and just be carefree for a few minutes each day. It felt fantastic. And my body was feeling fantastic, too – Less sluggish, more energetic, more focused even. A friend said soon I’ll be skinnier, too, but that, for me, would just be icing on the cake. I had already gained so much from rope flow, and that was more than enough.
Now, for the first time in my life, I have an exercise routine that I don’t want to quit! I’ve even gone as far as to share my progress on Facebook. And that’s when our founder, Jen, saw me rolling my rope, and asked me to write this post. As of this past June, I am 3 months into my rope flow journey. I now can do all of six moves, but am learning more each day. I’ve started joining spin classes, too, but that’s another story for another post.
I may not be the best person to talk about health and wellness because I’m not the most active, and I eat what I want, when I want to. But then again, maybe that does make me a good fit for this topic. Because if I can do it, anyone can. If I managed to take that first step, everyone can, too! Health matters so much right now, especially when we have our families to care for. As moms, we need to remember that we can’t take care of our family unless we take care of ourselves first. We owe it to ourselves, we owe it to them, and we deserve to be healthy and well.
What activities are you doing to maintain your health and well-being?
This is an original post by Patricia Cuyugan of the Philippines.
Rope Flow exercise photo credit: Patricia Cuyugan.
Patricia, thank you for sharing this from-the-heart piece – it sure inspires me to look around for some newer and more interesting exercise routines (am into a little walking and some yogasana). More importantly, your words on self-care resonate strongly with me! May more women and mothers (and fathers too!) learn to carve out some sacred me-time in the schedule.
I never heard of rope flow fitness! I am intrigued. Good for you for trying something new, and thank you for sharing your experience!
The most important thing in wellness is not this somatic body but of mind. Mind is the forerunner to all things. Then how does mind arise? It is not there just by itself, and it arises from the illustrations of Name-Form in our consciousness.
Allow me to use a simple simile here.
Suppose a grandpa relaxing in the garden is asked by the daughter to take care of the grandson. After a while his attention gets drawn to something else. Little while later looking and realising that the kid is not to be seen, shouts calling his name. Then from behind a bush the child appears with mud all over the body and face. Enraged, grandpa may say such words like rascal, donkey, idiot what have you done? The child keeps giggling because the grandpa’s face is changing. Next moment the grandpa picks up the kid and then is taken away by daughter to be washed. Afterwards two may unite again with kid under the watchful eyes of grandpa.
In another place, in a busy street people are walking briskly on the pavement and all of a sudden two collide and both falls down. They may get enraged and shout saying rascal, idiot, donkey what have you done? Next moment it may be a fight between the two and finally both may end up in the cop shop.
In both the scenarios the same words were used, but with different results. The reason being that in the case of the child there were no illustrations of what those words were in the consciousness and all that the child observed was the changing nature of grandpa’s face, which made the child laugh. In the second episode, both had illustrations of the words meanings in consciousness causing anger to arise.
Mind is the forerunner to all things and arising from the name-form illustrations in the consciousness, there arises the mind.
he solution is developing Mindfulness with the observation of breath over a period builds mindfulness and this mindfulness has power to restrain these mind eruptions and make you happy and contented..