Lately, in my personal life there have been many changes. And I started wondering about relationships and how much importance and attachment we give to them. And the fact that certain relationships make or break our life.
For instance, the relationship each one of us have with our children as mothers is so precious and may seem to signify the epitome of any wholesome relationship. But what is it that we share with our children that we cherish in this relationship? Love is a very poignant word, and I sometimes wonder the real meaning of it. Maybe it is the capacity to give your life for your child? Perhaps!
And then we have these relationships with our spouses and meaningful others. Other than physical intimacy, emotional attachment and love (again, that word) what else do we share with them? An interdependency, trust, common value system and a few other things like this. But what is a relationship based on?
And one day my friend, Geetha, told me, maybe in a good enduring relationship the two people have to grow! The commonalities in them which brought them closer and helped them start a relationship should also grow. It is continuous growth that sustains a relationship, makes it healthy and fresh. This got me thinking.
Yes children grow in so many ways. They have their entire life ahead of them, which, we, as parents help them forge. And they help us parents, grow in so many ways. They teach us tolerance, patience, acceptance, and maybe help us understand love better. So, yes, there is growth in a parent-child relationship. Both ways!
With spouses, yes! There is a lot of growth. No doubt about that. That is an entirely different topic with so much of mutual development and progress between partners because of the other partner.
With co-workers, with neighbours, with friends, with relatives, we all have certain elements of growth associated with it.
And then when it comes to these relationships which have soured, which leave scars within us, which makes us bitter, I wonder what really went wrong?
I have had soured relationships, and I have thought so many times, how I could have made them better, how I could have prevented bitterness to creep within them? And no matter what I think or the solutions which I have conjured up, some relationships just wither away. And I have no explanations, but only sorrow and bitterness. I work so hard at certain relationships, but they never seem to go ahead anywhere.
But there are certain other people, with whom I just need to connect my eyes with and it hits off from there!
Why so much difference?
And the answer came, as the key word – Growth!
Yes, there is love, trust, affection, mutual dependence and so much more of the same kind of things too.
But growth and evolution is the key. Helping each other grow and evolve has been vital to any relationship since the start of humanity and time. Growth and evolution has been the womb for even civilization.
Both people sharing a relationship should gain and also help the other evolve. Energy should flow bi-directionally. If it is unidirectional, the relationship just gets wasted away.
Here, at World Moms Blog, I feel, we, mothers, who have become more than friends and affectionate acquaintances, share a very basic relationship with each other. It is the need to bring up a very beautiful child from within to outside.
To keep the world a good place for our children and the future generation to live.
To help our fellow human beings in various ways which the World Voice contributors and editors are working on.
To basically grow and help other mothers grow.
To evolve and help humanity evolve in different ways.
Today, I voice my gratitude to various organisations like World Moms Blog, UN, WHO, UNICEF, Shot@Life, GAVI and the like which is dedicated to growth and evolution of relationships with humanity.
What recent experiences in your personal life made you grow a little more? For me, it has been to understand relationships better!
This is an original post to World Moms Blog by Purnima, our Indian mother writing from Chennai, India. Her contributions to the World Moms Blog can be found here. She also rambles at The Alchemist’s Blog.
Photo credit to Anesha Isis. This photo has a creative commons attribution license.