My family and I have just returned home to the United States after living in Laos for the past two years. We’ve been back in the States for 1.5 weeks and the highlight of my day today was a successful trip to a clearance sale at the local used children’s clothing store here in Denver, Colorado.
For $200 U.S. dollars, I bought 50 pieces of clothing for my 4.5-year old boy and girl twins to last them (hopefully) for the next three years, when we will be living in Lesotho.
No, you’re not reading typos (WMB editors are awesome). Yes, that’s $200 for 50 pieces of clothes including: jeans, pants, shorts, collared shirts, t-shirts, cute shirts, dresses, skirts, leggings, pajamas, and swimwear, sizes 5 – 8. All are like new, and many top quality brands, which some of you might recognize: Gymboree, Hanna Andersson, Mini-Boden, Garnet Hill, Gap, Carter’s.
I’ve been shopping for used children’s clothing ever since my kids were born. Heck, they’ve been living mostly in hand-me-downs from relatives and friends and this store’s used clothing.
They’ve been happy. I’ve been happy. And we’ve all received compliments on their cute clothes. I really wouldn’t do it any other way.
Sure, I see loads of advertisements, storefronts and catalogs filled with great stuff I’d love to buy, and can afford to buy. But my practical sensibilities and appreciation of value for money mostly always stops me…
”They grow so fast.”
“It’ll just get dirty or torn up.”
“Hey, those are adult clothing prices!”
As they say, “Waste Not Want Not.” Or, “One Man’s Trash Is Another Man’s Treasure.”
When I was living and working in Singapore as an investment banker, single, no kids, I was a spendthrift. Not a care in the world, except to ensure I saved for my pension.
I used to give my housekeeper handbags and shoes from the back of my closet that had gotten moldy in the extreme humidity, and she would always be delighted to receive these items that I thought were in state of trash-worthy grossness.
Weeks later, I would compliment her on her great purse or shoes and she would say, “These are the ones you gave me Ma’am.” Seriously. I felt like a fool. All I had to do was wipe them clean and put on a coat of leather polish. Silly, young, spendthrifty me.
Now I make sure our belongings are well cared for so they can last, or so they can be passed on and re-used. In Laos, used items purchased or made in America were highly coveted and sold fast. Everyone from our housekeeper, gardener, guard, colleagues at work and folks on a “buy & sell” Facebook site, gobbled up everything that wasn’t typically available locally or across the border in Thailand. Mostly because it was either cheaper, or better quality.
Consumer products sold throughout Asia tend to be of very low and questionable quality, and often not available at all in Laos.
Coming back to the land of plenty and choices, I still try to maintain the same mindset. Things can be valued for much more fundamental reasons than merely being new, or beyond the marketing image of “need” or status or image.
Sure, we can bring in the extreme perspective of the garbage dump cities all of the world where people and children actually live off of, and even earn a living from garbage. And our gut reaction is to think about how we can help them and change their situation, and feeling with a passion that something must be done about them, when in fact, it starts with us.
If we can change our habits and our mindsets, if we can demand less, if our values can put a limit on the things we accumulate versus things we re-use, then…
Who knows? Who knows what the solution is to uber-consumerism? Everyone all over the world seems to want it. Our demand for it makes it thrive. It’s not completely wrong, yet somehow it doesn’t seem right.
What does seem right to me is $200 for 50, and I’ll stick with it for as long as I can.
This is an original post to World Moms Blog by our mother of twins writer, Dee Harlow, currently in transit to live in Lesotho. You can also find her on her blog Wanderlustress.
Photo credit attributed to Mark Frauenfelder. This photo has a Flickr Creative Commons Attribution-Non-Commercial-ShareAlike license.
Absolutely right! I have lived in Cape Town since I was 8 years old. Growing up I went through periods when we had very little money, so I learnt from a young age to be frugal and not to care about labels and fashion. I’m still the kind of person who hardly ever buys anything new and, when I do, comfort and longevity are what I look for!:)
My husband and I taught our children the difference between “needs” and “wants” from when they were very young, and the lesson has stuck. 🙂 Both my 21 year old son and 18 year old daughter manage their money extremely well. My one weakness is that I love to buy things for my daughter because she has a lovely figure, she’s 18 and she hardly ever asks for anything! I’ll never forget the day when she needed a pair of denim shorts for a school function. The first shop we tried had a lovely pair that fitted her perfectly (and I was ready to buy) for R250. My daughter is the one who said; “Wait mom, let’s try shop x because if they have a pair it will be cheaper, if not we’ll come back.” So we did that and she found a pair for R90! She was SO excited that she’d managed to save me money! 🙂 Honestly, the shorts in shop 1 looked better, but she was happier with the less expensive ones, and who am I to argue with that! 🙂
Yes, I have bought my kids second hand clothes! And, I have also have an awesome friend who gives me her daughter’s hand-me-downs. I am so impressed that you manage to buy almost all of the kids’ clothes second hand.
I find myself in a super store shopping for household stuff, and then buying a low cost clothing item here or there, too. Last year I took my older daughter back-to-school shopping. This year, I bought both girls sneakers and only a couple of things from a discount clothing store. I will definitely try out the second hand idea again. Thanks for telling us of your success!!
Jen 🙂
Second hand is great for kids – like you said, they grow up so fast!!!
Agreed! I love consignment and I love this post! Thinking of you as you transition. xo