with tali-1All parents agree, once their first child came into their lives, everything changed. Our life routine changed, some of our friends changed, our clean house no longer stayed clean, the term “empty laundry basket” became an abstract thing, our plans for the future changed…even some of our dreams. We no longer sleep, we no longer eat, we no longer have the time to take care of ourselves as much as we wish. Eating at a dining table is a privilege, at least in my house, because most of my meals are consumed on the run, and my kids are not even in school yet!

I go to mom’s groups, family gatherings, coffee with friends, and I hear the same thing over, and over again: “It will all pass faster than you expect, and you’ll become free again.” No more dirty diapers, no more wiping floors and ceilings after each meal, no more sleepless nights, no more this, and no more that…

And I’m thinking, is it really all that bad…having young children around? Is it really that hard? Yes, it is hard, but it will become harder. Sleepless nights, because the baby is hungry, or because she needs a new diaper will change to sleepless nights because my daughters are out on a date, or on a road trip across the country, and I’m left with all the visions in my head about what may go wrong out there.

This kid who makes me exhausted asking so many questions per minute, and having to say so much about everything and everybody, might become the silent teenager who thinks I don’t know anything about life, so why bother to talk to me at all?

These days, as sick and tired I am of the playgrounds I take the kids to, I am well aware that someday I will be passing a playground full of kids, and I will remember how excited my kids would get when I had taken them there, so many times, day after day, in bad and good weather. And I will want those moments back.

In the future they will have their own activities, and they will not want me to be involved in any of them.

So yes, when the life gets hard with small children around, I just need to think about how it’s going to be when they grow up. Freedom comes with a price.

Life with small kids is exhausting. Sometimes I feel like I’m going crazy, and more, no less, I agree with Bill Cosby who says: kids are brain damaged.  To be honest, I sometimes find myself talking to my husband about how much I can’t wait when the kids start doing this, or stop doing that.

There is no “me” time. From the moment I get up I have kids all over me, trying to help, trying to play, trying to communicate, trying to learn, NEEDING ME. Every time they learn something new, and they don’t need me to help them, I breath deeper and think, “one thing less for me to take care of”. And I’m happy. Happy for me, happy for them.

We all want to raise our children to become successful in being independent. This is a very important skill to be able to survive. I just think, I should cherish more of the moments I am given with my children when they are young. I shouldn’t be so focused on: “it will become easier with time”, because it might, but it might not. While I am waiting for the times to get easier, I am not living the “every day is a new adventure” life that I have the privilege to experience as a parent. When our home is empty and silent, then I will realize how much I would give to have those moments with my small children back.

How about you? Do you have those moments when want your kids to be a little older than they are right now, when you just can’t wait for them to be potty trained, or to be able to use a spoon properly, etc.?

This is an original post to World Moms Blog from our writer Ewa Samples “Mom Photographer”  from California.

Photo and movie credits to the author. 

Ewa Samples

Ewa was born, and raised in Poland. She graduated University with a master's degree in Mass-Media Education. This daring mom hitchhiked from Berlin, Germany through Switzerland and France to Barcelona, Spain and back again! She left Poland to become an Au Pair in California and looked after twins of gay parents for almost 2 years. There, she met her future husband through Couch Surfing, an international non-profit network that connects travelers with locals. Today she enjoys her life one picture at a time. She runs a photography business in sunny California and document her daughters life one picture at a time. You can find this artistic mom on her blog, Ewa Samples Photography, on Twitter @EwaSamples or on Facebook!

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