As I stood in the kindergarten pick up line, I told another mom I was about to start the potty-training process with my littlest guy. I told her it had been a while since I had done it and would love any advice. I’ve used the excuse of putting it of because of our recent move [from Switzerland back to the US] for too long and it was time for both my son and me to face the beast.

She mentioned that her son had potty-trained himself. Um, that’s amazing. All I could think about was the pile of “accident undies” on my laundry room floor and my son’s attempts to empty the potty on his own (and the multiple, potential spills on the floor that would come with it). Happy for her, sure! But wishing it could be that easy for us too.

Funny enough, just days before my friend and I had been talking about the process of kids learning to ride bikes. She noticed that our oldest son was riding without training wheels. Her son was struggling to give up training wheels. I told her that my husband had been building up to teaching our oldest but that 5 minutes after removing the training wheels he was off on his own. No help needed. We could take no credit! We barely got a picture of the accomplishment because he was off!

Isn’t motherhood like that though? Some things come so easily to one child or mother and to others it is so painfully hard.

Breastfeeding, potty-training, giving birth, discipline, homework, feeding, you name it and it’s likely for some those things have come easy with minimal heartache and for others, they have struggled so much with few positive results. I think it’s easy in this journey of motherhood to get caught up in comparison and even tinges of jealousy over other moms successes. We want to know that we measure up and can be successful. But at some point, we have to embrace each others joys and victories and learn from each other. Let your successes be things you can share and let the things that feel like failures be things to strengthen through other mom’s positive experiences.

We talk a lot here on World Mom’s Blog about social good and reaching out to moms around the world. This blog is having a hand in life saving work. And that is huge! There is no denying the need to feed the hungry, immunize the impoverished and bring hope to the darkest corners of the globe. But I am curious, how much mercy do we show the mom next door?

Are we in competition with one another or building one another up? Are we throwing each other a lifeline and cutting each other some slack?Look at the moms you interact with each and every day. Think about your neighbor, sister, church friend… She might not need you to buy her groceries or carry a literal burden for her, but she might need some camaraderie. And she needs it in you.

How comforting is it to come to a friend and know that she has faced a challenge that you are about to encounter? Her process may have been different and her outcome might not match yours but you can gain some encouragement from being in the same boat.

My son and I attend a group for Mothers of Preschoolers (MOPs). It is worldwide and so worth looking into!!  Years ago, my aunt was involved in it, it was before I had kids but it still sounded so neat. I joined for the first time when my oldest son was 2 ½. A quote from one of their fliers has stuck with me ever since

“MOPs moms don’t let moms mother alone”.  We are all in this together! We are on the same team.

Are you in a network of mom’s that support one another or has the competition gotten the best of you?!  What mom can you be gracious to today that might need some encouragement?

This is an original article written for World Mom’s Blog by contributor Kristen Kolb. You can visit Kristen on her personal blog,   Kristen and her family were previously in Bern, Switzerland but have recently moved State-side for a posting in the Washington, DC area.

Photograph taken by Kristen Kolb.



Kristen is a stay-at-home to two little boys, Jackson (4 yrs) and Owen (nearly 2 yrs). She was born in New York, but eventually made her way down to Texas. She and her husband, Seth, met in Dallas and were married in December 2005. Nine months into their marriage Seth received a call that he had landed his dream job, one catch, it involved world wide assignment. The adventure took them from Texas to Washington, D.C., on to Bogotá, Colombia and then back to Washington, D.C before bringing them to Bern, Switzerland! Kristen and her family have currently lived in Bern for more than 1 year, where her husband works for the US Department of State. Four moves and 2 children in nearly 6 years of marriage have made for quite the adventure in motherhood! Kristen finds motherhood to be one of the most humbling and character building things she has ever experienced. The responsibility of raising boys with integrity and respect at times feels daunting, but she couldn’t imagine doing anything else! Kristen is a Speech Language Pathologist but has taken time away from working to focus on her family. Although she enjoys the travel and adventure involved in her husband’s career, she often finds herself feeling far from home and working to make the most of time abroad! On her blog, Seasons Worth Savoring, Kristen writes about daily life with two little boys, including her experiences as she navigates a foreign culture and walks by faith. In her free time, or rather in her busy time with two boys attached to her legs, Kristen enjoys cooking, photography, antique and thrift store shopping, working on crafts, and blogging.

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