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How easy it is to say No.
Even when we think we are not actually saying no, we kinda sorta are.
For instance …
Not right now. Just a second.
I will be right there. In a moment.
Give me a minute. Maybe later.

Sound familiar to you? All variations of I just don’t have the time. or shall I call it what it is, simply saying – no.

It is funny, because all the current catch phrases lean more to the ‘Live in the Moment’, and ‘Be Intentional.’

Even that huge company that you know so well says, ‘Just do it.’ And yet, my days are long. My apparent busy’ness endless. My to do list could go on forever and seems as though it will never have the magical words that say The End to bring the chores to a close. And yet while I fuss and fret about all that needs to be accomplished, time is not standing still. Every night I put my children to bed and by morning they appear to have grown up while they sleep.

I cannot help but gaze upon them and wonder where the time went …
And then in my next thought …
What was I so busy doing that I seemed to have missed it?

One minute they were just so little. It seems like only yesterday the very first time that my oldest held her baby sister. The sweet lady at the adoption agency, so aptly named Joy, walked out of a door and placed a teeny yellow bundle into her arms as she sat there on the carpet, just four years old herself. I remember her sweet expression as she looked in wonder at the face of this baby she had willed into our family. Now here they are before me, at 15 and 11, no longer babies, young women almost on the threshold of life. Making plans, getting busy, looking to their futures as I am left wondering about their past. With life, parenting, homeschooling, fundraising, and a passion for writing that I try and squeeze into my days (or those very long nights) it would seem that I am always busy. The busy, the seemingly unproductive busy – the cleaning, tidying, mopping, picking up, it allows no respite. And brings no reward. Somedays the vacuum cleaner itself is a permanent attachment, much like my babies were when they were, well, babies … I have to smile to myself here, that surely as they bury me with the whole ashes to ashes, dust to dust, I will reach beyond the grave and screech, ‘Dust, what dust … how can there be dust?’

Sad, but true. You know the expression, stop and smell the flowers? I truly believe it was written for parents. To slow down, enjoy this moment. Breathe, inhale its wonder, exhale with a sense of peace. Let me be in this very second, and the next as minutes string together forming moments in time. Memories to keep close, held so very carefully by our sometimes fragile hearts. I know that I cannot pause life, it just doesn’t work that way. I have the power, oh yes, power to make the decision to be more present in each new day that lies before me. Stretching out as a bright and shiny new gift, waiting for me to plan it and mold it at will. I cannot turn back time, or even stop the clock – but I can be here, present … if only I allow it.

Yes, if I allow it, the ability is mine, it is within my grasp. Turn off my phone, shut down my screen, and be there face to face with my children. A craft, a book, even snuggled on the couch watching a movie – is together time. All children really want from a parent is you. Your time, your attention, your love and understanding that what they do matters, that what they share with you counts, that you are there. All there and accounted for in that moment. Before we know it, their wants will shift. There will be others who meet their needs and their journeys will take a different path.

They will make their own lives.

Sisters from Another Mister

All that we have shown them, lived with them, taught as Moms or Dads, parents and families is what they will take with them to their future. They will create their own families, where they will make their own stories, their own traditions and they will be in charge of their future. Our time with them, our lives that we share together will be the blueprint of what they create for themselves. We are showing them the right way, or maybe the wrong way to shape a life, a family and future. All of our actions, our words … our being present is what will manifest itself down the road in their lives because so many of our life lessons are learned within the walls where we grow up. What are we teaching, what are we instilling for value and worth?

So I look at this precious season with my family.
I look at time anew … counting the hours which seem to move in haste.
Waking in the morning in the light of dawn and taking a second to watch their sleeping faces, like angels in their sweet slumber.
Taking time out of each day to simply be. Relax, enjoy their laughter, I sigh at their sweet giggles and gentle banter.
Making dinner and enjoying each minute spent at the table, side by side.
Tucking them in night, kissing their heads as they fall asleep.
Enjoying the quiet hush of the night, my girls safely tucked in their beds.

Slow it down, because you cannot stop it moving forward.
You cannot go back in time.
But you are blessed to be in the here and now.

How do you balance your life, or do you feel too busy to live in the present sometimes too?

This is an original Post for World Moms Blog by Post by Sisters From Another Mister/Nicole in Florida, USA.

Sisters From Another Mister

Sisters From Another Mister ... A blog born from the love of 'sisters' around the world who come together to lift eachother up no matter where they are on their life journey. Meet Nicole, a transplanted British born, South African raised, and American made Mom of two girls living on the sunny shores of South Florida, USA. A writer of stories, an avid picture taker and a keeper of shiny memories. Sharing the travels of a home school journey that takes place around the globe - because 'the world truly is our classroom'. Throw in infertility, adoption, separation, impending divorce (it has its own Doom and Gloom category on the blog) and a much needed added side of European humor is what keeps it all together on the days when it could quite clearly simply fall apart! This segues nicely into Finding a Mister for a Sister for continued amusement. When not obsessing over the perils of dating as an old person, saving the world thro organisations such as being an ambassador for shot@life, supporting GirlUP, The UN Foundation, and being a member of the Global Team of 200 for social good keeps life in the balance. Be sure to visit, because 'even tho we may not have been sisters at the start, we are sisters from the heart.' Global Team of 200 #socialgoodmoms Champion for Shot@Life and The United Nations Foundation

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