This year in the Philippines, we have been amidst an election year for a new president. Honestly, I wasn’t too pleased with the options nor the results. In the last six months since the elections, things are looking quite bleak for our nation, with a clear divide between the people. I’ve never seen a more shameful public parade of opinions than in the last year since the campaign period began.
Compounded with the U.S. electoral campaign, my Facebook feed has become almost intolerable. Where there used to be updates about motherhood and the joys of parenting, I now find daily helpings of judgment and strife.
I can’t say more than this. You all know what I mean. We all know what’s being said and hurled around social media.
Everyday, I just get to thinking; What is this world coming to? Were we always this spiteful, this hurtful? Did social media make us more bold to spew out hate from behind our screens, or did it make us more cowardly than ever?
The biggest question of all; How does a mother in this day and age raise a child amidst such horrors? In my own country, things appear status quo on the surface, but we live in constant fear of extrajudicial killings, unsolved murders and deep corruption in the government.
How do you protect your child from what is evil, immoral and debase?
How do you explain to them that the world is still good, despite daily heralds that it is terribly, horribly twisted?
As a mother, all I can do is set an example for my children. Because what I do — whether or not my children see me in action — will reflect in how they turn out. I cannot play with their lives if I am not vigilant with my own character, my values and beliefs. Because like it or not, their perception of me will shape their future.
For my son, I hope that my husband and I can show him how to be a man for others. He is a kind soul, an old soul I feel sometimes. He watches out for his little sister, and has started ninja/martial arts lessons (after his obsession with TMNT), so that he “can protect her.” I want him to grow up to see the good in people, to be a giver at heart. Maybe he can use his talent for drawing in some good way for others; I don’t know. His future is full of possibilities.
For my baby girl, I hope that this world will still be full of wonder for her, as she is still such a baby. (She’s one and a half.) I have yet to find out what she will be like, but I hope to bring her up with a mindset of positivity and bravery, of gratitude and hope. She has such a full life ahead of her, that is why I am adamant to make her world a happy place.
Sigh. I remain hopeful. Maybe I just need to tune out of the news for a while and be with my kids more, so that I can constantly be reminded that we are all inherently good inside. Who’s with me?
Sigh ! I am with you, and I hear you. You said it the best when you mentioned that we need to tune out of all the hatred and spend time our own kids!!
It’s really sad to learn that and I always like to hear from you. Since I am connected with thousands of work from home moms, I know how they face troubles in raising their kids along with other responsibilities. And, in such a situation, Philippines moms have to take extra care of their kids. Thanks for this lovely post that will help them regarding this.
Sadly Martine, what you say is true all over the world. I live in South Africa and we have the same challenges here as well. I suppose in a way I’m really lucky. My son is 23 years old and has made a life for himself in Germany. My 20 year old daughter has an amazing soul and an inquiring mind. She also hates injustice and isn’t afraid to stand up for what she believes in. We have daily debates about the good and the bad that surrounds us, and she usually ends up teaching *me* to see things in a different way. 🙂 I’m extremely proud of both my children. In this day and age, they and their friends give me hope for the future. Their generation has the most difficult task of dragging humanity away from self-destruction. I think (and pray) that they are up to the challenge. May God Help Us All!!