“I don’t want to be a mom.” 

When I first heard those words ring out of my 4-year old’s mouth, I was crushed.  I immediately thought that this was my fault.  Am I too hard on her?  Am I too strict?  Am I too neurotic? Does my job look boring to her? Is it because I stay home?

I thought about myself as a little girl, taking care of my dollies.  Yes, I wanted to be a mother, no doubt, as a little girl.  My daughter plays with toy dinosaurs all the time.  Was that the problem? Should I be providing an environment of more baby doll stuff?  Where had I gone wrong?

I decided to put my crazy away.  I just flat out asked her.

Me: “When that kind old lady at the grocery store asked if you wanted to be a mom one day, why did you say that you didn’t want to be a mom?”

Her:  “I like being a big sister.  I like being a kid.  And, I like living in this house.”

Me: “Yes, but what does that have to do with becoming a mom one day when you grow up?  I see how you love to help take care of your little sister, and I think you will make a great mother one day.”

Her: “You don’t live in grandma’s house anymore.  If I want to be a mom, I have to leave this house.  And, I like it here.  I don’t want to leave you.”

Me: [Tears]

Maybe my little big girl is happy with being who she is right now.  A sister.  My daughter. Who lives in this house.  I will always remember that answer with a big heart. And, since then she’s been asked that question twice now.  I just smile when she answers with an emphatic “No!”

Welcome to this week’s World Moms Blog week in review!

Monday, we were in California, USA for A. Roselyn’s story about how she is fighting off the baby blues with acupuncture!

We discussed religion on Tuesday, when Carol @ If By Yes talked about the thought process that went into christening her son — she is the great-granddaughter of a minister and her husband is an atheist.

Wednesday and Thursday the topic was being a stay-at-home mom (SAHM), two different moms of the world, and two different perspectives!  The Alchemist of India shares some funny conversations with family members on the topic (20+ comments!), and Polish Mom Photographer knows she’s doing the right thing, but has many people implying that she’s not.

This week’s writers’ interviews featured two new writers from two new countries!  Susie Newday joined us from Israel and EcoZiva joined us from Brazil!  Susie writes a blog on staying positive, and she has two sons in the Israeli army.  ExoZiva (perhaps, the inspiration for writing my story today), admits that she didn’t want to be a mom, but it really suits her now.

Our WMB writers answered about the biggest fears they have for their child’s future in the Friday Question.  You won’t want to miss this one!

Tune in tomorrow to see where we are heading next in Kirsten Doyle’s Travel Itinerary!

Jennifer Burden


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Photo credit to A. Stephano. This photo has a creative commons attribution license. 

Jennifer Burden

Jennifer Burden is the Founder and CEO of World Moms Network, an award winning website on global motherhood, culture, human rights and social good. World Moms Network writes from over 30 countries, has over 70 contributors and was listed by Forbes as one of the “Best 100 Websites for Women”, named a “must read” by The New York Times, and was recommended by The Times of India. She was also invited to Uganda to view UNICEF’s family health programs with Shot@Life and was previously named a “Global Influencer Fellow” and “Social Media Fellow” by the UN Foundation. Jennifer was invited to the White House twice, including as a nominated "Changemaker" for the State of the World Women Summit. She also participated in the One Campaign’s first AYA Summit on the topic of women and girl empowerment and organized and spoke on an international panel at the World Bank in Washington, DC on the importance of a universal education for all girls. Her writing has been featured by Baby Center, Huffington Post, ONE.org, the UN Foundation’s Shot@Life, and The Gates Foundation’s “Impatient Optimists.” She is currently a candidate in Columbia University's School of International and Public Affairs in the Executive Masters of Public Affairs program, where she hopes to further her study of global policies affecting women and girls. Jennifer can be found on Twitter @JenniferBurden.

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